Embracing Motherhood by Corrine L. Bucher, Life Coach
Corrine L. Bucher, Life Coach

A Matter of Perspective
Quantity Breeds Quality

Into Action
Create the space and time this weekend to spend with your children

Modern Mom Spotlight
Cindy Baily of The Fertile Kitchen™

Offerings
Four offerings for
drop-in, tele-class,
group or individual coaching sessions

Bio
Who is Corrine Bucher?

September 2009 Newsletter - #13
Embracing Motherhood:
Quantity Breeds Quality

Dear Friends,

Summer flew by and my intention was to enjoy my family and create some special memories for us all to enjoy. I was fortunate to take some time off work and indulge in the opportunity to spend a lot of time with my children. I share with you below some of what I learned. I am also excited to introduce you to Cindy Bailey, author of The Fertile Kitchen, in this month’s Modern Mom Spotlight.

Whatever your stage of motherhood, I hope you feel inspired and supported each month to live more fully and joyfully. My mission is to bring you simple, practical ideas that you can use right now to usher in more energy, time, and move beyond balance to vibrance.

I welcome your feedback. Please let me know what will help me help you make the most of your adventure.

Make 2009 your most Vibrant Year Yet!

Sincerely,
Corrine Bucher
Life Coach and mother of a kindergartener and a first grader
Corrine@corrinebucher.com

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A Matter of Perspective

Quantity Breeds Quality
by Corrine Bucher

As our car gained speed, I was losing patience. We were only about 48 hours into a family road trip from Half Moon Bay to Big Sur to Disneyland to Legoland and I was already questioning the idea of our family of four spending the week together without a break. Camping in Big Sur and five hours in the car had certainly offered us more closeness than we had had in a while, and we were getting on each others’ nerves. Then I took a deep breath and opened the Orange County parenting magazine I had grabbed at the last stop. My eyes fell upon the editor’s essay. It was about how we strive for Quality over Quantity, whether it is choosing organic vegetables or clothing or time. The editor boldly wrote she no longer believed quality time with your kids can be scheduled. How could she say that? What about all the working mothers I have coached who are committed to both motherhood and career, and in an effort to "have it all" bank on the concept of scheduling "quality" time? I read on, then I reflected on the last 48 hours. And I felt my perspective shifting.

The editor’s point: You can’t schedule the most precious moments, they just happen. In fact, merely labeling a date with your kids or anyone else – as "quality" time creates pressure that undermines the chance of that date truly being special. Spending uninterrupted time with my children, I began to understand what she was saying. The gift of being present all day long with no computer, no work, no commitments, allowed me to see intricacies in my daughter’s personality that I hadn’t noticed before. Could I have scheduled that discovery? Not a chance.

Just for the record, I do realize what a luxury it is to be able to take a vacation for five days, not to mention that the #1 challenge moms face is feeling like they don’t have enough time. And I’m not saying you shouldn’t ever schedule time with your children; that’s healthy and good. Just don’t try to label it or expect it to go a certain way. The quality moments I’ve found, can’t be planned. They come when you least expect them. But if you take time to be with your kids because you want nothing more than to be with your kids, those moments surely will come.

Into Action

Create the space and time this week to spend with your children. Practice letting go of any expectations and simply enjoy whatever shows up.

Send me an email and let me know what you learned! Corrine@corrinebucher.com

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Modern Mom Spotlight

Cindy Bailey of The Fertile Kitchen™
www.fertilekitchen.com

At age 40, after trying to get pregnant with my husband for over a year, I visited a popular reproductive endocrinologist who gave me the hard news: I had a two percent chance of conceiving on my own.

In that moment, my heart dropped. I felt frustration, panic and deep sadness. But I also had another reaction that day: I flat out refused to accept the doctor’s grim prognosis. I just decided I was not a statistic and could make a difference in my own fertility. I had already begun researching natural, holistic methods of aiding fertility, and knew in my gut this was true.

Bolstered by research, I put myself on a strict fertility friendly diet, among other natural healing regimens, such as yoga and visualizations. Four months later, to the astonishment of my doctor and to my own breathless amazement, I got pregnant naturally and later delivered a healthy baby (our son, Julien).

That experience taught me a lot! During that period, my husband—an amazing cook—created a wealth of simple-to-make, tasty dishes to make the diet easier. We wanted to share all we learned in hopes that it could help others struggling with fertility issues. The result is The Fertile Kitchen™ Cookbook, due out in early October, 2009. We’re very excited about it! In its pages we share these flavorful recipes, along with the dietary guidelines that helped us succeed—plus additional tips. We hope it will inspire and make a difference.

What is your top tip for balancing it all?
This is what I try to do: Take it one day at a time, plan and set priorities, and stay focused. And try not to multi-task: When you work, focus on working, when you’re with family, be fully engaged in that. In that way, one activity doesn’t rob from the other. This helps to make you feel more fulfilled in all areas. It is also important to accept that you’re not superhuman. There is a limit to what you can do, and naturally, as a mom you have to stay flexible. Don’t be too hard on yourself, just do what you can, and at the end of the day, call it a day and let it go. (Easier said than done, I know!)

I also think it’s important to find the balance between work and family time that is exactly right for you and try to support that. For me, working four full days a week and having a full day off for one-on-one time with my 3-year-old is perfect for both of us. Sometimes I can do that, sometimes I can’t, but it’s my goal.

How has being a mom impacted your success?
It has made me more focused in what I do, because my time is limited in a whole different way than before, and it has made me much more relaxed about my work (as a corporate, professional writer)—because I now have responsibilities that are “bigger” or more important than my work. I’m also more relaxed because I’ve had to be more flexible. I may have a huge project with a tight deadline, but if my son is sick and has to stay home from school with me, I juggle that work responsibility somehow and find it always works out fine in the end, so I don’t sweat it, like I used to.

What is your best mommy moment?
Mine is a series of moments. My son is very affectionate and first thing almost every morning when he gets up he wants to cuddle, so we sit on the couch, the two of us, and cuddle for about fifteen minutes. No matter how busy I am, or how late he is for pre-school, I always take time for this, because those moments fuel my whole day, and who knows how long they will last.

Offerings

Four Offerings:

1. The Vibrant Mother© Monthly Drop-In session at The Joy Of Being in Moss Beach. Next meeting – Tuesday, September 22nd.
Join other Coastside and Pacifica Mothers to gain and share tips and wisdom around the challenges of balancing life and family. This group is for YOU, so please send me ideas for topics you want to hear discussed.

2. The Vibrant Mother© Group Coaching in Half Moon Bay
This 6 month program meets for one 2 hour group session each month. You also receive one 45-minute individual coaching session each month. Investment – $150 per month. Launching in October.

3. Motherhood By Design © From Tired To Inspired At Home And Work
Designed to make it efficient and easy for busy moms to participate, this 6 month group tele-class will meet twice a month for one hour. A total of 18 group sessions. Investment – $149 per month. Launching this Fall.

4. Individual Coaching
Coaching is a powerful partnership that often leads to remarkable results. As a coach I provide structure, tools, accountability, and inspiration to move you forward. Pricing upon request.

Please email me for more details, corrine@corrinebucher.com

Corrine Bucher, Life Coach






International Coach Federation


Bio

A veteran coach and mother, I am devoted to transforming the lives of mothers, whether working or not. Known for my enthusiasm, spiritual touch, and practical strategies I have spent the last 10 years coaching women who strive to find more balance and fulfillment often to remarkable results. This is success from the inside out, deep lasting change driven by taking compelling inspired actions.

The co-creator of corporate programs for Working Mothers, I challenge and inspire women to define their work/life balance vision so that they can begin to feel a sense of control again. Offering tools to manage the guilt and stress of motherhood, my clients take away practical strategies to implement immediately.